Have You Lost Your Connection?
Is your relationship no longer a place of safety? Do you wonder whether your partner is really there for you? That you matter?
Perhaps you imagined life with your partner would always be passionate and fulfilling. Or that you would forever share a deep emotional bond. Sadly, many couples get stuck in unsatisfying and distant relationships.
Losing our connection with a loved one jeopardizes our sense of security. When we get stuck in vicious cycles of blame and defensiveness, we experience a primal feeling of panic, or we may lash out in anger, or simply withdraw in helplessness and despair.
Yet the science of attachment tells us that relationship and connection are essential to our well-being. We need to feel safe, cherished, and loved.
Repairing Your Bond
Through an emotionally focused therapy (EFT) approach, I help couples restore the secure, loving bond they once shared by identifying, then changing, the destructive patterns of interaction that distance and divide.
Is Your Child Hard to Parent?
Does parenting seem harder than it should be? Are you frustrated with your child’s behaviour, or feeling guilty because you're a "bad" parent? You are not alone. In some ways, parenting is more challenging today than it has been in previous generations. As a parent, you are meant to be the most important person in your child’s life. But you are also meant to have the help and support of many significant others: your extended family, your friends and neighbours, your child’s teachers and the wider culture. This “village of attachment” and support no longer exists in our society. So parents are left to go it alone. And this can sometimes leave you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.
To make matters worse, parents today are bombarded by a plethora of “solutions” to their child’s behaviour problems. So-called experts, through hit TV programs and bestselling books, champion fear-based, punitive or separation-based techniques, which may seem to work in the short-term, but ultimately damage your bond with your child as well as his or her own sense of safety and security in the world.
What Makes my Parenting Approach Different
I use the approach pioneered by renowned developmental psychologist, Gordon Neufeld. Rooted in developmental science, my way of working as a family therapist and parenting consultant is to help parents understand their child from the inside out. Instead of focusing on the “misbehaviour”, I help parents gain insight into why their children are behaving the way they are, so that they can address the root of the problem instead of dealing with just the “symptoms”. I help you understand and meet your children’s fundamental developmental needs, which are:
A secure attachment to you and other adults responsible for their care;
Discipline that does not punish or divide; and
Structure, rituals and routines to compensate for their natural immaturity and keep them out of trouble.
I help you get back in touch with your own natural parenting intuition so that you can parent from a place of understanding, love and connection. In short, I show you how you are the answer to your child.
Get in Touch
I'm a parenting consultant and an individual, couple and family therapist in Montreal, Quebec. If you, your relationship or your family are in need of extra support through a challenging situation or you are ready for some positive changes in your life, I look forward to working with you to achieve your goals.
Please call or E-mail me today for an individual, couple or family therapy consultation.